Consider Sustainability In Marriages
Dear Friends & Neighbors,
Contrary to what many of you may think, we do have readers/viewers of Windermere Sun (www.WindermereSun.com) who may not agree with what I believe or propose. Nevertheless, it is all right because this is how we may raise issues for discussions and make meaningful progress. Case in point, below is a segment of one of the email messages that I’ve received yesterday, below:
My wife xxx and I have been married for 31 years. Before she met me she was married for 12 years to an alcoholic who physically abused her…. She found the opportunity to escape and did it…. The message is clear: Find the strength to escape.
Below is part of my responding email:
I am glad your wife got out of a bad marriage and has a very good second marriage.
I am not proposing that any one should stay with a spouse who continues to be abusive. But I do want to ask the question: Would you leave a spouse who had gained weight, became ill, got older, or became unemployed? Should we give the Sustainability In Marriages a chance?
Granted, given our current social and legal environment, it is very easy to dissolve marriages. But I do wonder some times if our disposable and instant gratification mentality had prevented many long-term marriages from coming to fruition. My husband and I are fortunate that we have gone through much and knew each other well prior to our difficult experience. Because the current society provides a great deal of incentives for any one and every one to quickly dissolve marriages, my experience is such that it requires more strength and love to stay in a marriage during tough times. We all come from different perspectives. I am sure it took a great deal of strength for your wife to leave her ex more than 3 decades ago. But time has changed and pendulum has swung to the opposite extreme. There seems to be much more incentives and societal pressure (because divorce generates a great deal of economic activities for many sectors of the society) to leave or dissolve marriages now a days. But my life experience from running businesses to having practiced in different professions for decades helped me to realize that anything worth keeping requires a great deal of hard work. That is why I am running Windermere Sun and Sun Is The Future because I love our planet earth and believe that it is worth keeping and sustaining through my and many others’ hard work, even if it does not appear to provide sufficient economic gains.
Instead of disposing of a man/woman no longer at his/her prime or bringing in as much income, I’d much rather that we all consider helping to spruce him/her up and remind him/her of the good memories and skills he/she may offer the world…instead of blowing up our populated planet earth with much conflicts or difficulties (in pollution, energy, international conflicts), I’d rather that we find ways to help propagate the use of solar energy (solving energy-pollution-local jobs-international conflicts issues) and help to promote community businesses or services so to increase the chance of a healthier/happier/sustainable world. The easily disposable attitude is not always the best solution in the long run ….just look at our planet earth…. perhaps we should give Sustainability In Marriages a deeper look if we want to have more sustainable life style or to sustain our planet earth for a longer duration.
Gathered, written, and posted by Windermere Sun-Susan Sun Nunamaker